Summary: Sexual performance anxiety great affects men’s self-confidence.

Anxiety is a normal part of life; therefore, it is likely that most people experience anxiety at some point in their lives. Anxiety keeps us alert and helps us cope in every stressful event or situation. But, there is a type of anxiety that is common to men when we talk about sexual issues- men’s sexual anxiety. Men’s sexual anxiety affects their performance in bed. This issue is hardly ever discussed openly for fear of losing their macho-image. Male’s sexual performance anxiety is described when a man has trouble getting “his thing up”.

Men who have sexual performance anxiety usually worry about whether they do get a penile erection and when they are about to have sex, they lose their erection, or it can be that when they are actually in the course of having sexual intercourse, they lose the genital erection, or they don’t get their “thing” stubbornly up at all. Sexual performance anxiety can happen to men in any of those situations. The real deal is usually that you are focusing relatively on the final goal, which is of course “orgasm”, or pleasing your partner with an orgasm, instead of focusing on all the rest of what goes on in the sexual encounter. Concentrating more on the relationship and the intimate experiences that you are having as a contrary to the final goal, to make the story short focus on enjoying the whole process of sexual intercourse and not torment yourself by thinking the end result.

There are actually a large number of different treatments, as far as sexual performance is concerned. One of the treatments targets the erectile dysfunction (ED) known as the sensate focus technique. Through a series of four stages, the first thing that you should learn is to stop focusing on the outcome (orgasm) and worrying about whether or not you climax ahead or satisfy your partner to reach that first, instead concentrate on what the sensory stimulation is like, savor the actual moment of being stimulated, find out what are the ways in which you can reach the “peak” and pleasure each other, these will take your anxiety off of what’s going to happen at the end. And once you’re through with that stage, move on to the second where you’ll be caressing, touching, and communication with clothes off. The third stage is actually being inside your partner but no thrusting, and the last stage is now the thrusting. But, the focus is on the sensations (or called sensate focus).

Analytical Therapy, which is psychotherapy/psychoanalysis using hypnosis, can be very effective in dealing with more deep-seated problems that most men have. Though ED and other sex interferences can have biological causes, many of the problems are psychological. Hypnosis can reduce sexual performance anxiety to promote a more relaxed and confident sense of self, optimize self-esteem, happiness and boost self confidence.

Another remedy is prescription drug treatments therapy. There are two types of penis erection drugs that can boost your self-confidence. The medication that goes to the brain to get an erection, and the other works directly to the genital. Uprima medicine works by enhancing nerve signals that causes nerve signals to be sent from brain to the male genital organ, which results it to become erect. Other drugs like Viagra, Cialis, or levitra are some of the drugs to choose from for erectile dysfunction treatment.

Men sexual performance anxiety is one of the issues that are not very popularly discussed publicly. The reasons of men’s sexual performance anxiety are either the result of how they feel or because of genital erectile dysfunction. Whatever the reasons maybe, sexual performance anxiety is curable!

Using sexual lubricants during sexual intercourse, masturbation and for use with sex toys enhances the experience for most people. The slippery texture of a lubricant adds to the sensual feel of almost any sexual encounter with a partner or when you are engaged in self-pleasure. It can also help those women who’s bodies don’t manufacture enough natural lubricant.

Studies of women that use sex toys report that women found using a lubricant with their favorite vibrator greatly enhanced the experience. With all the new male sex toys available today, the same increased pleasure can be enjoyed by men when adding a lube when using many sex toys. Lubrication makes toys glide sensually in, out and about. However, be sure to choose a lube that doesn’t damage you or your erotic sex toys.

It is very important to use the correct lubricant for the sexual activity and other sexual items involved. Certain lubricants disintegrate condoms, others will destroy sex toys, some work better for anal sex and others are preferred for masturbation.

There are four types of lubricants: Water-based, petroleum-based, those made from natural oils, and silicone-based. Each has its advantages and disadvantages.

Water-based Lubes: These are the most versatile, safe and popular lubricants for all situations. Typically made of de-ionized water, glycerin, and propylene glycol, they are safe to use with condoms and all forms of barrier birth control. It is rare that water-based lubricants cause irritation, and they don’t stain clothing. They are safe to ingest, and they come in both flavored and unflavored varieties—using one of the many flavors available can add to the pleasure of oral sex. They tend to dry out over extended periods, but a little water or saliva will get you slick again.

Petroleum-based lubes: These include Vaseline products, mineral oil products and baby oil. Unfortunately, these products all destroy latex, so they cannot be used with condoms, cervical caps or diaphragms. In addition, they can inflame and irritate the vagina. They also stain clothing. Petroleum-based lubes do tend to last well, so they are often used by men during masturbation.

Natural oil-based lubes: These are derived from natural oil sources such as nuts or vegetables. Like petroleum-based lubes, they too destroy latex (condoms, diaphragms and cervical caps) and stain clothing. However, they do have one key advantage over petroleum-based lubes: they don’t cause vaginal irritation. This makes them excellent for female [and male] masturbation, unprotected vaginal intercourse, and for massage.

Silicone-based lubes: These have the benefits of water-based lubricants with the addition of being waterproof, so they may be used in the bath, or the Jacuzzi, or… In addition, they tend to lubricate longer than water-based lubes. Silicone will not hurt latex, so they’re safe with condoms and other forms of barrier birth control; however, they can affect adult toys made from silicone.

So, pick a personal lubricant that’s compatible with your sexual activity and any birth control or sex toys you are using. There are many companies manufacturing each type of sexual lubricant, so if you don’t like the consistency, scent or other qualities of one lube you have plenty of other choices. Enjoy yourself!